This Child Star Made Money for Mormon Mom Who Bathed Her until 16 – She Is ‘Gorgeous’ in Her 30s after Leaving Hollywood
Once a star on two of the most popular TV shows, she won over countless fans before leaving her acting career.
Despite her cheerful on-screen persona, she faced a difficult family life. Her controlling mother dominated her childhood and financial burdens weighed heavily on her.
Now in her 30s, she’s thriving in a career she chose for herself and her fans think she is “gorgeous.”
The child star at the private screening of “Breaking Dawn” on March 24, 2004 | Source: Getty Images
As a teenager, she was one of the most recognizable child stars on American TV. She rose to fame early, all while dealing with her family’s financial issues and her mother’s serious health problems.
At 16, she became the sole breadwinner for her Mormon family. The overbearing nature of her mother and the star’s private struggles made this challenge tougher. Now in her adulthood and away from Hollywood, she’s following the path she has defined for herself.
The child star, at 16, at the peak of her career in December, 2008 | Source: Getty Images
She faced many challenges in her early years because her family had difficulties. Her strong-willed mother supported her through tough times, helping her rise to stardom.
Early Life and Rise to Stardom
Her childhood was a mix of personal challenges and career highlights. Born on June 26, 1992, in Garden Grove, California, she was the youngest child in a Mormon family.
Photographed at the “Breaking Dawn” premiere on October 17, 2004 | Source: Getty Images
Her early life was shadowed by her mother’s cancer diagnosis when she was just two years old. This event significantly shaped the family’s dynamics and her childhood.
Money was a problem for the family. Her father worked at a kitchen design company and her mother occasionally worked at Target. Her mom, however, had her sights set on Hollywood. She believed her daughter’s success as an actress could secure the family’s financial future.
The child star, third from left, with the cast of “Will & Grace” on December 13, 2005 | Source: Getty Images
At six, the young girl was thrust into the entertainment industry. This decision was not out of personal ambition but as a fulfillment of her mother’s dreams. “I think [my mother] wanted me to have a better life than she had,” she reflected. However, she says the methods her mother used were “unhealthy” and stemmed from her unresolved issues.
The child star with her mother from a video dated August 10, 2022 | Source: YouTube/@ABCNews
Her mother’s management style was intense and often overbearing. She ensured her daughter’s home environment was tightly controlled. The young girl was homeschooled, limiting her social interactions and heightening her isolation from peers.
Things at home were pretty tense because of her mom’s unpredictable moods. But what made everything even more stressful was the fear of her mom’s cancer coming back. Even with all this going on, her mother didn’t stop. She kept pushing the girl to succeed in Hollywood.
The child star, on the far left, with the cast of “Will & Grace” on December 13, 2005 | Source: Getty Images
2004: Her Career Takes Off
Her Hollywood career began with small roles in television shows and movies starting in 2000. By 2004, she secured roles that positioned her as the family’s main financial support.
Before long, the name Jennette McCurdy gained recognition. The income her acting brought to the family helped a lot. However, it came with a heavy emotional and psychological cost for her.
Jennette McCurdy in Universal City, California on October 6, 2007 | Source: Getty Images
Being a child star might seem exciting, but for Jennette, it was tough. She was stuck between trying to make her mom’s dreams come true and dealing with her feelings.
She continued to deal with her mother’s demanding expectations and emotional outbursts. This was a sharp contrast to her public image as an up-and-coming star.
Jennette McCurdy attends the “Breaking Dawn” premiere on October 17, 2004 | Source: Getty Images
Jennette remembers when she was in the car after a particularly rough audition. She told her mom she didn’t want to act and her mom’s reaction was fierce, full of tears and anger. Jennette realized how much her acting meant to her mom, Debra McCurdy. After that, she never talked about quitting again.
2007: Jennette McCurdy Meets Sam Puckett
Jennette McCurdy on October 6, 2007 | Source: Getty Images
Jennette McCurdy attends the MTV Summer TCA press tour on July 13, 2007 | Source: Getty Images
2008: iCarly and Challenges of Early Stardom
Jennette entered mainstream success when she landed a pivotal role on Nickelodeon’s “iCarly” in 2007. This role would elevate her to star status, recognized by millions of young fans across the globe. As Sam Puckett, the spirited and slightly rebellious best friend of the show’s main character, Carly, Jennette quickly became a fan favorite.
Jennette McCurdy attends the Nickelodeon 2008 upfront presentation on March 13, 2008 | Source: Getty Images
But as her public profile grew, the internal pressures and dynamics at home intensified. Debra tightened her grip, managing every detail of Jennette’s life. This control extended to severe dietary restrictions that began when Jennette was only 11.
Debra taught her daughter calorie counting and restricted her diet in ways that led Jennette to develop an eating disorder. Debra encouraged this behavior, believing it would help maintain Jennette’s youthful appearance. She thought it would extend her career longevity, as younger-looking actors could work longer hours and were more easily directed.
Jennette McCurdy attends the premiere of The G-Girls Music Video on June 28, 2008 | Source: Getty Images
Debra’s control also extended to personal boundaries. She insisted on bathing Jennette until she was 16. This was under the guise of conducting medical exams which included invasive touching. Debra justified this overreach as a necessary check for cancer signs, given her own health battles.
Jennette McCurdy attends the 62nd Annual Mother Goose Parade’s Pre-Event “Evening With The Stars” on November 22, 2008 | Source: Getty Images
This overstepping of boundaries affected Jennette deeply. It contributed to a complex relationship with her own body and autonomy. “I’ve dreaded showers for a while, five years or so. Whenever it was that I started to feel uncomfortable that Mom still showers me. She doesn’t mean to make me uncomfortable, I don’t think,” she wrote.
Jennette McCurdy attends the 15th Annual Entertainment Industry Foundation’s Revlon Run/Walk on May 10, 2008 | Source: Getty Images
Her sudden fame, a direct result of her mother’s ambitions, made her resent the very spotlight that most children might dream of. She found it daunting as it starkly contrasted her overprotected and sheltered upbringing. The sudden fame and visibility left her with significant social anxiety.
Jennette McCurdy attends the 15th Annual Entertainment Industry Foundation’s Revlon Run/Walk on May 9, 2008 | Source: Getty Images
The show was funny and light, but Jennette’s life wasn’t. The fame her mom wanted for her didn’t make things better. It caused more problems and made her mom jealous. After facing the challenges of her early acting career, Jennette found solace and a new sense of purpose.
Jennette McCurdy on March 9, 2008 in Los Angeles, California | Source: Getty Images
2009: Capturing Jennette’s Radiant Smiles
Jennette McCurdy attends the 2009 Teen Choice Awards on August 9, 2009 in Universal City, California | Source: Getty Images
2010
Jennette McCurdy attends the 23rd annual Kid’s Choice Awards on March 27, 2010 in Los Angeles, California | Source: Getty Images
2011: Exploring Music
In 2011, Jennette attempted to diversify her career by venturing into music. She released two songs, “Generation Love” and “Not That Far Away,” which she shared on her YouTube channel. These tracks gained significant attention, amassing 9.5 and 6.2 million views respectively.
Jennette McCurdy attends Nickelodeon’s 24th Annual Kids’ Choice Awards on April 2, 2011 in Los Angeles, California | Source: Getty Images
2013: Loss and Revelation
2013 brought big changes for Jennette. Her mother, Debra, succumbed to cancer, which had returned in 2010. Her demise was a big blow to Jennette emotionally and psychologically. Losing her mother left her reeling and feeling untethered.
Jennette McCurdy in New York City on May 14, 2013 | Source: Getty Images
Jennette could not keep up with the anorexia her mother had conditioned in her. The harder she tried, the more she veered off to bulimia and alcoholism. She struggled with her identity and place in the world without the only anchor she had known.
Debra and Jennette McCurdy on May 9, 2009 in Los Angeles, California | Source: Getty Images
Jennette’s grief was compounded by the revelation that the man she had always known as her father was not her biological parent.
This loss coincided with Jennette’s role continuation in the “iCarly” spinoff, “Sam & Cat,” alongside Ariana Grande. The show did not offer the solo spotlight Jennette had anticipated, instead positioning her in a co-starring role.
Jennette McCurdy and Ariana Grande on March 23, 2013 | Source: Getty Images
She admitted to feeling jealous as she saw Ariana pursuing opportunities that were denied to her. She also experienced professional stagnation because her superiors wouldn’t let her explore other opportunities.
Jennette McCurdy and Ariana Grande attend the UK premiere of “Sam & Cat” on October 12, 2013 | Source: Getty Images
After purchasing a house in Studio City in 2013, Jennette experienced the burdens of homeownership, which did not suit her lifestyle. By 2016, she sold the property at a loss and found relief in returning to apartment living. This way, she could avoid the maintenance responsibilities.
In the years following her mother’s death, Jennette sought therapy, which became a crucial component of her healing process. Her therapist helped her recognize the abusive nature of her mother’s behavior.
Jennette McCurdy attends the premiere of “Monsters Vs. Aliens” on March 22, 2009 in Universal City, California | Source: Getty Images
This painful but necessary realization challenged her to reframe her life’s narrative. Therapy provided her with the tools to start dismantling the detrimental beliefs instilled by her mother. It also helped her to begin understanding her self-worth.
2017
Jennette McCurdy attends the “Before I Fall” premiere on March 1, 2017 | Source: Getty Images
2018: Leaving Acting Behind
Empowered by therapy and a newfound understanding of her worth, Jennette decided to retire from acting in 2018. She felt she needed to escape the shadow of her mother’s ambitions and find her own way. This break allowed her to focus on recovering from her past traumas. She was able to start rebuilding her life on her own terms.
Jennette McCurdy attends the “Damsel” premiere on June 13, 2018 | Source: Getty Images
After Jennette left acting, she became vocal about the difficulties child actors faced in the industry. Her time at Nickelodeon, especially with a showrunner who was manipulative and intimidating, reminded her of her mother’s control over her life. These experiences deeply influenced her views on the industry and child stardom.
Jennette McCurdy attends the 30th Annual College Television Awards Gala on March 21, 2009 in Culver City, California | Source: Getty Images
Jennette’s candid reflections reveal her struggles with exploitation and manipulation. She recounts uncomfortable situations, highlighting the skewed power dynamics she often faced. The former actor also witnessed harsh treatment from industry figures, such as a creator known for his aggressive behavior.
Jennette McCurdy attends the “Damsel” premiere on June 13, 2018 | Source: Getty Images
The showrunner, whom she calls “The Creator,” encouraged her to drink alcohol, and gave her an unwanted shoulder massage. She also saw him yell and fire a young actor who got some lines wrong.
After announcing her departure, Jennette said no to a $300,000 payout from Nickelodeon to keep quiet. She chose to speak up about these issues instead of staying silent for money. She’s now a voice for better treatment of child actors.
Jennette McCurdy is seen on August 02, 2019 in Los Angeles, California | Source: Getty Images
Through her advocacy, Jennette hopes to bring attention to these challenges and encourage systemic changes that prioritize the well-being of child actors. Her efforts, alongside those of former child actors like Alexa Nikolas, aim to create a safer and more supportive environment for young talents.
Alexa Nikolas arrives at Chevy Rocks The Future on February 19, 2008 in Burbank, California | Source: Getty Images
She discusses the systemic issues in children’s television, emphasizing the need for stronger protections for child actors. Jennette suggests having an advocate on set dedicated to the child’s mental and emotional health, separate from the financial interests of adults in the industry.
Jennette McCurdy attends the 2022 Time 100 Next on October 25, 2022 in New York City | Source: Getty Images
Additionally, Jennette touches on the peculiarities of growing up famous. She had to go through private moments, like her first period and kiss, in public. This blurred the lines between her personal life and public persona, adding to her confusion. She embraced her story’s power as she stepped out of Hollywood’s glare in 2022.
Jennette McCurdy attends the 2022 Time 100 Next on October 25, 2022 in New York City | Source: Getty Images
2022: Life Post-Hollywood
Jennette’s life post-Hollywood has been marked by significant personal growth and new creative pursuits. In 2022, she released a memoir titled “I’m Glad My Mom Died.” The book is a provocative and candid reflection on her painful childhood and the complex relationship with her mother.
Jennette McCurdy attends the 2022 Time 100 Next on October 25, 2022 in New York City | Source: Getty Images
The book’s title and cover, which features Jennette holding a pink funeral urn, might startle some. However, they encapsulate her harrowing experiences and dark humor. Jennette explains the title as a cathartic expression of her journey. It aims to provoke thought and draw readers into her story of overcoming adversity.
Jennette McCurdy on August 9, 2022 in New York City | Source: Getty Images
Writing has become a therapeutic outlet for Jennette. It allows her to process her grief and complicated feelings toward her mother. “I used to have a complicated relationship with missing her; now I’m able to just miss her,” she reflected on her evolution.
Jennette McCurdy poses a portrait on August 1, 2022 in Los Angeles, California | Source: Getty Images
While Jennette has moved away from acting, she has not left the creative world. In addition to her memoir, she is working on a novel and a collection of essays.
2022 also marked a significant milestone in her recovery from eating disorders, a battle she has fought publicly and privately. “I haven’t engaged in any disordered eating behaviors for years,” she proudly shares, highlighting her progress.
2023: The Scare That Shifted Perspectives
Moving into 2023, her focus shifted to confronting and discussing the persistent issues with self-image. This was a continuation of her candid and courageous story.
Despite stepping away from acting, Jennette’s reflections on her fame and the entertainment industry remain insightful. She discusses the ongoing struggles with self-image, exacerbated by a long-standing battle with acne.
Jennette McCurdy attends The Future of Audiobooks Event with Spotify 2023 on October 3, 2023 in New York City | Source: Getty Images
“I am 31 and I am still struggling with acne. It makes me so insecure. It affects my self-esteem really negatively,” she admitted. She also revealed that in her struggle, she had sought medical attention and tried several medications.
One of these medications resulted in an incident that terrified her. A routine blood test during her acne treatment falsely indicated a pregnancy, causing her intense fear and confusion. This incident profoundly impacted her and she stopped taking the medication.
Jennette McCurdy attends The Future of Audiobooks Event with Spotify 2023 on October 3, 2023 in New York City | Source: Getty Images
Reflections on Fame, Family, and Future Aspirations
Despite her challenges and insecurities, the feedback from her fans remains overwhelmingly positive. Fan comments like, “Lord, you’re so gorgeous, I ain’t never seen such beauty till you graced my eyes,” bolster her spirits and remind her of the support she has.
Yet, Jennette remains contemplative and cautious when it comes to personal aspirations like family. In a conversation with Drew Barrymore, she expressed her current disinterest in having children, stating, “I don’t think I want children. I’m open to my mind changing on it, but it so far hasn’t seemed appealing to me.”
She voiced her desire to make decisions that are true to her needs and not based on external expectations or fill an emotional void.
2024: Hard Feelings with Jennette McCurdy
At 31, Jennette continues to evolve and redefine her public and private life. Her experiences — both painful and empowering — have significantly shaped her current outlook and aspirations.
In 2024, she launched her podcast, “Hard Feelings with Jennette McCurdy Pods,” which has become a key part of her story. This podcast is where she shares her thoughts and connects with people everywhere. She talks about personal growth and important issues in society.
Her change from a child star, controlled by others, to a strong woman in charge of her own story is remarkable. Jennette has turned her challenges into chances to learn and express herself. Her book and podcast aren’t just for creativity; they help her heal and talk about the complex parts of her life.
Jennette McCurdy from a post dated January 2, 2024 | Source: Instagram/lemonadamedia
Jennette McCurdy from a post dated January 2, 2024 | Source: Instagram/lemonadamedia
Jennette’s life shows us how strong we can be and how looking inside ourselves and being honest can change us. She keeps moving forward, using what she’s learned from her past to guide her choices and dreams. She knows her strengths and what she can work on. Her life proves that our past doesn’t have to set our future; we can decide who we want to be.
Jennette once said, “I wish I could have shown my 20-year-old self me now. I would have known what I was aiming for. I would have had something to hope for; something to be encouraged about.”